Why do we get so attached to other people? When do we realize it’s becoming excessive? Have you ever met someone and gradually developed an unbreakable connection and said to yourself, “Wow, THIS IS IT!” You’re comfortable around them and feel a bond that you’ve never experienced before. The two of you begin to hang out often, make each other laugh, and constantly tell one another that you appreciate each other. Both of you feel relieved that you finally found someone you can always count on to be there for you. This person is like a rock you can always lean on when in desperate need. Months, possibly years pass, and you’ve become used to this person being in your life. Without this person, you’re lost. It’s as if you NEED this person to be a part of your life for you to push forward. That moment when you feel a “necessity,” is when you’ve become attached.
Attachment is the need for someone to fill an emptiness in your life and be there for you when nobody else will. You’re no longer able to let go or get out of your comfort zone once you get emotionally attached. If you lose someone you’re attached to, you instantly feel unhappy and empty. When there is too much emotional involvement with other people, it can inevitably become a problem and will likely lead to unnecessary suffering. In addition, you allow their problems and stress to be passed onto you, ultimately affecting your mood and state of mind. In relationships, it can lead to anger, jealousy, and fights. In friendships, it can turn into an unhealthy obsession, which neither person should want.
Everyone, at some point in life, feels an attachment to someone or something. Through experience, I’ve learned that strong attachment may feel good while it’s occurring, however, not after permanent separation. An argument or disagreement may cause separation, and this is when strong emotional attachment becomes regrettable. I believe you shouldn’t get intensely attached to another person. Put it this way: At some point, you didn’t have that best friend or significant other in your life, and you were most likely great. So, you never really needed that person. In order to avoid emotional attachment, one must build self-confidence and recognize your own value, so you can be comfortable on your own. Of course, we all want friends or a lover, and I believe it’s all right to have that, but in the back of your head, one should remember that you don’t need that person. Making decisions based on your feelings isn’t always the best choice. It’s time we realize the only person we need is ourselves.